Skip to main content

Online Love Addiction Help

Get Answers - Find Clarity -
And Heal 
Online or Phone

Love Addiction Help & Support

Recovery Groups

for Love Addicts

Online Groups for Love Addicts

Love Addiction Test

By Jim Hall, MS - Love Addiction Help


The following questionnaire is an effective assessment to find out if you have love addiction problems, and determine whether you are a love addict or not. Feel free to print this page and answer the questions with a Yes or No.

  1. I repeatedly fall into hurtful, destructive relationships.   Yes __ No __
  2. I typically fall in love, get crushes on, or obsess on unavailable/avoidant individuals.  Yes __ No __
  3. I tend to rush into love relationships too quickly without truly getting to know my partner.  Yes __ No __
  4. I get stuck in relationships that aren't going anywhere.   Yes __ No __
  5. I tend to fall for partners who cannot or will not love me in return.  Yes __ No __

  6. I let fantasies take the place of real relationships.  Yes __ No __
  7. I have a great fear of being alone.  Yes __ No __
  8. I feel lonely and unhappy when I am not in a relationship (single).  Yes __ No __
  9. I crave intensity in relationships while fearing true intimacy/little sharing of real substance.  
    Yes __ No __
  10. When I love someone, I fear he/she will find someone better than me.  Yes __ No __

  11. I panic at the thought of my partner not loving me; and eventually 'abandoning' me.   Yes __ No __
  12. I become so preoccupied in fulfilling the expectations of my partner that I lose touch with my own feelings.Yes __ No __
  13. I often need constant approval and reassurance from my partner to feel secure and good about myself.  Yes __ No __
  14. I tend to use a love relationship to help me feel alive, worthy, and valuable.  Yes __ No __
  15. 1.I tend to compromise my own values and integrity to avoid being alone; left or abandoned.  
    Yes __ No __

  16. I seem to always fall for relationship partners who are Narcissistic or Grandiose ("It's all about him/or her").  Yes __ No __
  17. .I can often be demanding; suffocating and smothering my partner in relationships.  Yes __ No __
  18. I have difficulty letting go of a romantic relationship as I feel I cannot survive without him or her; because it is too
    painful to end it; even if I know he/she is bad for me.   
    Yes __ No __
  19. I tend to use fantasy in place of true love and intimacy.  Yes __ No __
  20. I crave love/intimacy/closeness, but run from (sabotage) it at the same time.  Yes __ No __

  21. My relationships feel like a roller coaster of highs & lows (mostly lows) with an anxiety ridden push-pull dynamic.  Yes __ No __
  22. I believe to love is to have extreme chemistry, passion, or high intensity in a relationship.  Yes __ No __
  23. I tolerate intolerable or unacceptable behaviors in relationships.  Yes __ No __
  24. I tend to minimize or ignore obvious "red flags" of a potential relationship partner (i.e., addictions, unhealthy attitudes, past relationship patterns, destructive behaviors) and only see what I want to see in him/her.  Yes __ No __
  25. I have difficulty with loving myself and need constant validation from my partner to feel worthy.  Yes __ No __

  26. I have difficulty setting appropriate boundaries in relationships..  Yes __ No __
  27. I have difficulty taking care of my own needs and wants and place my partners needs and wants, over my own.  Yes __ No __
  28. I tend to idealize my partner; put him/her on a pedestal; see them as stronger or "better than," and me as weaker and "less-than.”   
    Yes __ No __
  29. Despite evidence, I often tell myself my relationship will get better; that my partner will be like he or she was in the beginning. 
     Yes __ No __
  30. I tend to give too much, do too much for my partner while receiving less and less.  Yes __ No __

  31. I often take full responsibility for problems in my relationships; or I hold my partner fully responsible for all the problems in the
    relationship.   Yes __ No __
  32. I often try to change, convince, or control my partner so they will fulfill my fantasy of what I want him/her to be.  Yes __ No __
  33. I tend to give up or disregard personal goals, likes, values, needs/wants while placing all my focus on my relationship.  Yes __ No __
  34. During a breakup or divorce, I tend to experience intense withdrawal symptoms (i.e., obsession, loneliness, despair, depression, loss of identity; desperate need to reestablish contact ex-partner for relief).  Yes __ No __


* If you answered Yes to at least five of these statements, you likely have problems with love addiction and may be a love addict. If you’re a love addict … there is an answer, RECOVERY. And you are at the right place to find the solutions and clarity you need.

Love Addiction = Self Abandonment

Love Addiction is a real (common) addiction. It can be as debilitating as any other kind of addiction (if not more so) and greatly influence the quality of our relationships, well-being, and life.

If you are just finding out you're love addicted, do realize... Change and Recovery is ABSOLUTELY possible. 

Change is to human life what the metamorphosis is to the caterpillar. It is the inevitable cycle of life. If there is no change, there is no life. If you are love addicted, change won't happen by itself. But rest assured, there is plenty of hope (even if it may not feel like it at the moment).

You can't just say, "I'm going to stop picking unhealthy, avoidant, narcissistic partners" ... sorry, it just doesn't work that way.

Most changes begin in the mind with a willingness, a desire, then a decision- then action. This changes your attitude, which changes your feelings, which changes your life. It is the proverbial ripple effect.

Changing includes both outer modifications of behavior and an inner shift in values, and thinking patterns- including eradicating our inner shame-based tapes (messages/false beliefs), which we unknowingly internalized long ago- then, carried this shame into adulthood.

Until we make these shifts, we continue to hold onto the lies, distortions, and false beliefs about ourself, relationships, even the world.

The positive changes you can make in recovery will be based on real experience, valuable insights, and important recovery tools.

The founder of this site, Jim Hall, MS, Love Addiction Expert (that's me!) can help you learn the strategies that have worked for him in remarkable ways and beleives will work for you to break your love addiction and start living a healthy and happy life while attaining relationships that bring out the best in you.

If you are love addicted -- whether you're in a current relationship, withdrawing from a breakup or love loss, single, or searching for a healthy, fulfilling, long-lasting romantic relationship ... With the right solutions and guidance from a Love Addiction Coach, Counselor, or any helping professional who genuinely understands this problem-- you CAN break free and recover and realize long lasting love in your life.

If you are ready to stop this cunning problem-- Start now by doing one thing for yourself-- take one simple step to jumpstart positive change in your life. What will be the price tag, or the consequences in your life if you don't do anything to become free from addictive loving? The answer-- the same as it has always been.

Get Love Addiction Recovery Help
By phone or online
* from anywhere you live

Start Healing Now

Get tools &

insights to

help you heal

... delivered

straight to your