"Change occurs when one becomes what he/she is, not when he/she tries to become what he is not"
About Jim Hall, MS, Love Addiction Expert, Author, founder of www.loveaddictionhelp.com
My name is Jim Hall, BS, MS, Masters in Counseling/Psychology, Love Addiction Specialist, and founder of this site.
Please allow me to answer two questions that I believe you will want to know.
I believe this is a very important question for you to know. I won't go into to details, since that can fill up a whole book- but here are
For years I had NO IDEA how to be in healthy love relationships- or attract healthy partners.
I repeatedly attracted partners who were as unhealthy as I was. I was attracted to drama, dysfunction, and emotionally fearful & unavailable partners. I lived through one frustrating & painful relationship after another & it was wearing on me.
I read self-help books, relationship books, went to a counselor- anything to figure it all out- nothing seemed to work.
The beginning of the end of Love Addiction.
My turning point in my life came after another painful end to a dysfunctional- addictive relationship-I finally hit "bottom". You might ask: What is "bottom"? "Bottom" for me was obsession, confusion, emotional pain, shock, & numbness- I lost myself!
The wall of denial in my life, the denial I used all my life- finally crumbled- breaking all at once- soon after this particular relationship ended.
My family and friends COULD NOT UNDERSTAND what I was going through- why I was in such misery- over a relationship that was miserable? Well, I'll tell you what- I couldn't understand it either. I felt alone, lost, and "crazy".
During this time of my life- I learned about a Rehabilitation Center for Love Addiction - This treatment center was one of most well respected- and worldly renowned of its kind.
However, there was a problem after looking into it- a big one: This center was out of State- required 35 days of intensive treatment- and cost way to much for me to afford. The cost was well over $35,000-- YES! --$35,000. I couldn't believe it! The only place that may help me and only the rich could afford it! No one said life is fair, did they?
But I was desperate. I was in pain. I didn't care what it took or how much money I would lose- I needed and wanted change. So I scrambled and borrowed the money (financed)- called the treatment center- and flew off into the blue skies- I was angry, obsessed, and embarrassed this was happening to me over a relationship.
My true beginning
Despite deep internal shame I felt at the time, entering treatment to finally deal with the real core issues around this love addiction-- was the beginning of the end of my toxic patterns of loving. Going to this rahab center was the starting point of my journey that changed my life- and is what drives me today- to want to help you.
My growth, insight, and recovery continued after getting out of treatment.
Because of my incredibly successful recovery experience, I wanted to learn more- I read, researched, and studied everything I could about love addiction & relationships- the causes, patterns, and treatment methods that further help people break free.
I continued in recovery - and I developed the tools and strategies that further enhanced positive changes in my life.
I went to school to get a Masters in Counseling and Psychology that also significantly enhanced my expertise to help you get out of the abyss of love addiction.
Why do I want to help you find freedom from love addiction?
In my gut, I knew there were many people out in our world dealing with this baffling problem (true). Moreover, I realized- I was very fortunate to have the opportunity to go to this treatment center where I discovered how to love myself and love others- giving me a life of abundance.
I also realized 99% of the population could never get this kind of treatment- and most therapists cannot provide the critical insight this kind of treatment center provides- and there are no other treatment center's like this that a majority of people can afford. I knew I could help, and wanted to.
I make a commitment to you and others like you.
My genuine and sincere passion today, is about helping you discover-- the knowledge, critical insight, and powerful tools that, in fact, works ! ... to help others like you, who want , what I never thought I would achieve in my recovery,- hope, freedom, and healthy love. * (w/o needing a very costly treatment center).
There are many who suffer from love addiction. Many suffer quietly. Some- not as intense as I did; but also many as intense as I did (hitting a "bottom"). But never the less, millions are living out relationships (and within themselves) in toxic love patterns, in silent despair.
What's the solution for you?
The solution for you at this moment is to first understand that you are NOT crazy; that you have nothing to be ashamed about. And second, the solution is for you to learn the tools and methods of recovery that have no doubt worked for me, and have worked for countless people I've worked with--- and will no doubt work for you!
With that, you can break free from the toxic obsession, and you can gain the skills of healthy loving, intimacy, self-love, value and esteem.
Breaking free from the pain of love addiction!....
That is what I help people do. And it works. Let it work for you.
Don't let anymore time be wasted in this very insidious addiction to love- it is real- it sucks bad- but you can recover. Take advantage & begin your personal path to live a life of relational love & self-love you DO deserve.
I've been there, I get it. More importantly, I understand...
Have a question or feedback? I would be glad to hear from you.
Are you ready to heal?
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