This site is for people seeking important insight, knowledge, and/or online recovery services for love addiction and codependency, including tips, tools, and guidance to overcome unhealthy dependency cycles in relationships.
My name is Jim Hall MS, Masters in Counseling/Psychology, Love Addiction Specialist, and founder of this site.
Please allow me to answer two questions that I believe you will want to know.
I won't go into to details since that can fill up a whole book- but here are 4 important qualifications I have which I believe will give you the confidence and trust that I could provide the help you need:
Why I created this site to help You-- It's Personal!
For years I had NO IDEA how to be in healthy love relationships- or attract healthy partners.
I repeatedly attracted partners who were as unhealthy as I was. I was attracted to drama, dysfunction, and emotionally fearful & unavailable partners. I lived through one frustrating & painful relationship after another & it was wearing on me.
I read self-help books, relationship books, went to a counselor (many times)- anything to figure it all out.
The beginning of the end of my Love Addiction.
My turning point in my life came after another painful end to a dysfunctional- addictive relationship-I finally hit "bottom". You might ask: What is "bottom"? "Bottom" for me was consuming obsession, confusion, emotional pain, shock, & numbness- I lost myself!
The wall of denial in my life, the denial I used all my life- finally crumbled- breaking all at once- soon after this particular relationship ended.
My family and friends COULD NOT UNDERSTAND what I was going through- why I was in such misery- over a relationship that was miserable? I'll tell you what- I couldn't understand it either.
During this time of my life- I learned about a Rehabilitation Center for Love Addiction - This treatment center was one of most well respected- and worldly renowned of its kind.
However, there was a problem - a BIG one:
But I was desperate. I was in pain.
At this point, I didn't care what it took or how much money I would lose- I needed and wanted change. So I scrambled and borrowed the money (financed)- called the treatment center- and flew off into the blue skies- I was angry, obsessed, and embarrassed this was happening to me over a relationship.
Despite the deep internal shame I felt at the time, entering treatment to finally deal with the real core issues around this love addiction-- was the beginning of the end of my toxic patterns of loving.
My growth, insight, and recovery advanced after getting out of treatment.
Because of my incredibly successful recovery experience, I wanted to learn more- I read, researched, and studied everything I could about love addiction & relationships- the causes, patterns, and treatment methods that further help people break free.
I continued in recovery - and I developed the tools and strategies that further enhanced positive changes in my life.
I went to school to get a Masters in Counseling and Psychology that also significantly enhanced my expertise to help you get out of the abyss of love addiction.
What brought me to want to help you find freedom from love addiction?
In my gut, I knew there were many people out in our world dealing with this baffling problem (true). Moreover, I realized- I was very fortunate to have the opportunity to go to this treatment center where I discovered how to love myself and love others- giving me a life of abundance.
I also realized 99% of the population could never get this kind of treatment- and most therapists cannot provide the critical insight this kind of treatment center provides- and there is no other treatment center's like this that a majority of people can afford. I knew I could help others, and I wanted to.
I made a commitment to you and others like you.
My genuine and sincere passion today is about helping you discover-- the knowledge, insight, and tools that lead to my breakthrough out of love addiction-- something at the time I never thought I would have achieved in my recovery.
There are many who suffer from love addiction. Many suffer quietly. Some- not as intense as I did; and others, simililary (hitting a "bottom"). But never the less, millions are living out relationships (and within themselves) in toxic love patterns, in silent despair.
What's the possible solution for how to overcome your love addiction?
I believe the solution for you at this moment is to first understand that you are NOT crazy; that you have nothing to be ashamed about. You are not alone.
And second, to learn the tools and methods and the crucial insights on how to break love addiction, which worked for me-- and can also make the difference for you. I now know this is the case- since I start this specialty working with recovering love addicts nearly ten years ago.
You know what? ... You can break free. You can gain the skills to realize healthy-fulfilling love, intimacy, self-love, and esteem.
So my friend, I strongly encourage you to not let any more time be wasted in this very insidious addiction to love- it is real- it sucks, bad- but with the right guidance, tools, and methods,--you can recover.
Take advantage of this moment & begin a path away from the pain and confusion, instead moving towards creating a life of relational love & self-love, that you DO deserve.
YOU CAN BREAK FREE FROM LOVE ADDICTION...
Surviving Withdrawal: The BreakUp Workbook for Love Addicts
The Love Addict in Love Addiction
Gateway to Recovery: The Beginners Guide to Breaking Free from Love Addiction