My name is Jim Hall, BS, MS, Masters in Counseling/Psychology, Love Addiction Specialist, and founder of this site.
Please allow me to answer two questions that I believe you will want to know.
Who is Jim Hall and why shoud you trust Jim to help you break the pattern of love and relationship addiction?
I won't go into to details since that can fill up a whole book- but here are
4 important qualifications I have which I believe will give you the confidence and trust that I could provide the help you need:
- I've been a love addict for many years--- I know what it's like in chaotic & toxic love.
- I've achieved powerful recovery & healing- I know what it takes (tools, solutions) to help you do the same.
- In my commitment to help you: I became a student of psychology and love addiction, and real love relationships- I studied & read countless books on addictive relationships- many hours in research- attended many professional lectures- I will help you find solutions.
- Additionally, in my passion to bring my experience to you- I have a Masters Degree in Counseling & Psychology- this further allowed me to gain more key insight in the psychology of love & relationships- to help you.
Why I created this site to help people struggling from addictive loving in relationships?
My story, in brief:
For years I had NO IDEA how to be in healthy love relationships- or attract healthy partners.
In fact, I thought I was the committed, giving, supportive partner who knew how to love.
I repeatedly attracted partners who were as unhealthy as I was. I was attracted to drama, dysfunction, and emotionally fearful & unavailable partners. I lived through one frustrating & painful relationship after another & it was wearing on me.
I read self-help books, relationship books, went to a counselor- anything to figure it all out- nothing seemed to work.
The beginning of the end of Love Addiction.
My turning point in my life came after another painful end to a dysfunctional- addictive relationship-I finally hit "bottom". You might ask: What is "bottom"? "Bottom" for me was consuming obsession, confusion, emotional pain, shock, & numbness- I lost myself!
The wall of denial in my life, the denial I used all my life- finally crumbled- breaking all at once- soon after this particular relationship ended.
My family and friends COULD NOT UNDERSTAND what I was going through- why I was in such misery- over a relationship that was miserable? Well, I'll tell you what- I couldn't understand it either. I felt alone, lost, and "crazy".
During this time of my life- I learned about a Rehabilitation Center for Love Addiction - This treatment center was one of most well respected- and worldly renowned of its kind.
However, there was a problem - a big one: This center was out of State- required 35 days of intensive treatment- and cost way to much for me to afford. The cost was well over $35,000-- YES! --$35,000. I couldn't believe it! The only place that may help me and only the rich could afford it! No one said life is fair, did they?
But I was desperate. I was in pain.
At this point, I didn't care what it took or how much money I would lose- I needed and wanted change. So I scrambled and borrowed the money (financed)- called the treatment center- and flew off into the blue skies- I was angry, obsessed, and embarrassed this was happening to me over a relationship.
My beginning of the end of my love addiction
Despite deep internal shame, I felt at the time, entering treatment to finally deal with the real core issues around this love addiction-- was the beginning of the end of my toxic patterns of loving. Going to this rehab center was the starting point of my journey that changed my life- and is what drives me today- to want to help you.
My growth, insight, and recovery continued after getting out of treatment.
Because of my incredibly successful recovery experience, I wanted to learn more- I read, researched, and studied everything I could about love addiction & relationships- the causes, patterns, and treatment methods that further help people break free.
I continued in recovery - and I developed the tools and strategies that further enhanced positive changes in my life.
I went to school to get a Masters in Counseling and Psychology that also significantly enhanced my expertise to help you get out of the abyss of love addiction.
What brought me to want to help you find freedom from love addiction?
In my gut, I knew there were many people out in our world dealing with this baffling problem (true). Moreover, I realized- I was very fortunate to have the opportunity to go to this treatment center where I discovered how to love myself and love others- giving me a life of abundance.
I also realized 99% of the population could never get this kind of treatment- and most therapists cannot provide the critical insight this kind of treatment center provides- and there is no other treatment center's like this that a majority of people can afford. I knew I could help, and wanted to.
I make a commitment to you and others like you.
My genuine and sincere passion today is about helping you discover-- the knowledge, critical insight, and powerful tools that, in fact, work! ... to help others like you, who want, what I never thought I would achieve in my recovery,- hope, freedom, and healthy love. * (w/o needing a very costly treatment center).
There are many who suffer from love addiction. Many suffer quietly. Some- not as intense as I did; but also many as intense as I did (hitting a "bottom"). But never the less, millions are living out relationships (and within themselves) in toxic love patterns, in silent despair.
What's the possible solution for how to overcome your love addiction?
I believe, from my experience, the solution for you at this moment is to first understand that you are NOT crazy; that you have nothing to be ashamed about. You are not alone.
And second, to learn the tools and methods of recovery that have no doubt worked for me-- and I believe will make a significant difference in your recovery as well!
With that, I strongly believe you can break free from the toxic obsession. You can gain the skills of healthy loving, intimacy, self-love, value and esteem.
Breaking free from the unhealthy patterns of love addiction-- Discovering what real love is all about-- This is what I help people do. This is how I want to help YOU.
Don't let any more time be wasted in this very insidious addiction to love- it is real- it sucks, bad- but with the right guidance, tools, and methods,--you can recover. Take advantage of this moment & begin your personal path to living a life of relational love & self-love you DO deserve. Please feel free to browse my articles, recovery services, and learn about my downloadable ebooks.
Jim Hall, BS, MS, Author, Love Addiction Coach