Love Addict Test - Self Assessment

By Jim Hall, MS, Love Addiction Expert
Updated June 2025
Are you wondering if you're addicted to your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, or love interest? The following Love Addict Test is designed to help you gain insight and identify potential signs and patterns of love addiction.
About Love Addiction
Research indicates that some individuals can become addicted to a person or romantic partner, forming addictive relationships driven by attachment insecurity and emotional dependence (Smith & Colleagues, 2025).
This behavioral pattern is called love addiction—also known as relationship addiction or obsessive love. Love addiction happens when someone becomes compulsively attached to a romantic partner, often sacrificing their emotional health and overall well-being (Acevedo et al., 2020). Related reading >> Love Addiction — A Complete Guide to Understanding and Breaking Free
While love addiction is not a formally diagnosable condition, this love addict quiz can serve as a self-assessment tool to provide insight into your relationship behaviors and attachment patterns.
Am I a Love Addict Test:
Directions:
Carefully review each question or statement below and answer with a Yes or No. Mark your answers as you go, or print this page for your reference. Your score is explained below after the questionnaire.
- I repeatedly fall into hurtful or abusive relationships. Yes __ No __
- I commonly fall in love with, develop crushes on, or become obsessed with individuals who are unavailable or avoidant. Yes __ No __
- I tend to rush into love relationships too quickly, often ignoring warning signs. Yes __ No __
- I remain in relationships despite clear signs they are dysfunctional or causing me significant emotional pain. Yes __ No __
- I let romantic fantasies take the place of real relationships. Yes __ No __
- I actively pursue relationships, even those that are dysfunctional, to feel a sense of value. Yes __ No __
- During a breakup, I experience intense love withdrawal symptoms like obsession, loneliness, and depression. Yes __ No __
- I crave extreme intensity and passion in relationships, often at the expense of genuine emotional intimacy. Yes __ No __
- When I love someone, I am constantly afraid they will leave me or find someone better. Yes __ No __
- My sense of self-worth is heavily dependent on my partner's approval, validation, or attention. Yes __ No __
- My identity and sense of self become heavily intertwined with my partner or relationship. Yes __ No __
- I often use a love relationship to help me feel alive, worthy, or valuable, rather than finding these feelings within myself.
- I consistently try to 'fix', 'help', or 'save' my partner, even at my own expense.
- I often make excuses for my partner's unhealthy behaviors to others or myself. Yes __ No __
- I tend to compromise my values, integrity, or personal well-being to avoid being alone or abandoned. Yes __ No __
- I seem to fall for partners who are emotionally manipulative, extremely selfish, narcissistic, or exploitative. Yes __ No __
- I often lose touch with my own needs and desires when deeply involved in a relationship.
- I can often be demanding, overly dependent, controlling, or smothering in relationships. Yes __ No __
- I crave love and closeness, yet I also feel overwhelmed or try to distance myself when true intimacy approaches. Yes __ No __
- My relationships feel like a roller coaster of highs and lows, with an anxiety-ridden push-pull dynamic. Yes __ No __
- I tend to equate "being in love" solely with intense chemistry, obsession, or overwhelming passion. Yes __ No __
- I consistently tolerate or make excuses for unacceptable or disrespectful behaviors from my partner. Yes __ No __
- My sense of self-worth is heavily dependent on my partner's approval, validation, or attention. Yes __ No __
- I struggle to establish or maintain clear personal boundaries within my relationships.Yes __ No __
- I find myself repeatedly prioritizing my partner's needs and desires significantly above my own. Yes __ No __
- I tend to idealize my partner and view myself as significantly less capable or worthy than they are.Yes __ No __
- Despite ongoing problems, I often believe my relationship will improve or my partner will eventually change.Yes __ No __
- I tend to give too much and do too much for my partner, while receiving less and less in return. Yes __ No __
- I often take full responsibility for problems in my relationships, or I blame my partner entirely, avoiding shared accountability. Yes __ No __
- I frequently try to change, convince, or manipulate my partner to fit my ideal vision of them or the relationship. Yes __ No __
- I tend to abandon my personal goals, interests, or friendships when I'm in a committed relationship. Yes __ No __
- I often hide aspects of my relationship or my feelings about it from friends and family due to shame or embarrassment. Yes __ No __
> Adapted from Pia Mellody, Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., Love Addicts Anonymous - "40 Statements for Self Diagnosis”
How to Interpret Your Love Addiction Test Results
After completing the quiz, count the number of “Yes” answers and review the guide below to understand what your score means:
0–5 “Yes” answers:
You likely have healthy relationship patterns and a secure attachment style. While no one is perfect, your results suggest you are not experiencing significant signs of love addiction.
6–15 “Yes” answers:
You may show patterns of anxious attachment, emotional dependency, or love-addicted behaviors. This could be an opportunity to explore your relationship patterns and learn strategies for building secure, healthy connections.
16 or more “Yes” answers:
Your score indicates strong patterns consistent with love addiction or high emotional dependency. It is highly recommended to seek guidance from a qualified love addiction expert or therapist to support your healing, build a secure attachment, and help you develop healthier relationship habits.
Disclaimer: The love addict test is for self-reflection and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.
Frequently Asked Questions About Love Addiction
What is love addiction?
Love addiction is an obsessive pattern of attachment where individuals become overly dependent on romantic partners for emotional fulfillment. It often leads to sacrificing personal well-being and staying in unhealthy relationships.
How do I know if I'm a love addict?
Common signs include obsessive thoughts about a partner, fear of being alone, difficulty letting go of unhealthy relationships, and using relationships to feel worthy or complete. Taking this self-test can help you identify these patterns.
Can love addiction be treated?
Yes. Recovery often involves understanding your attachment patterns, building self-worth, setting healthy boundaries, and working with a love addiction specialist or therapist to create secure, balanced relationships.
Is this test a diagnosis?
No. This self-test is for educational and self-awareness purposes only. It cannot replace professional diagnosis or treatment. If you recognize many of these patterns in your life, consider seeking support from a qualified specialist.
What should I do if my results show strong signs of love addiction?
If your answers suggest strong patterns of love addiction or emotional dependency, it’s recommended to work with a therapist or recovery coach who specializes in attachment and relationship issues. Learn more about love addiction and recovery >> Love Addiction — Understanding and Breaking Free
References – Click to Expand
Smith, J., et al. (2025, February). Study links love addiction to emotional dependence. Medscape. Retrieved from https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/study-links-love-addiction-emotional-dependence-2025a1000428
Acevedo, B. P., Poulin, M. J., Collins, N. L., & Brown, L. L. (2020). After the honeymoon: Neural and genetic correlates of romantic love in newlywed marriages. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, Article 00634. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00634