30 Recovery Tips for Love Addicts: Simple & Straightforward

By Jim Hall, MS, Love Addiction Specialist

If you are a love addict struggling with love and relationship addiction — the following recovery tips may help you.

1. Don't date because you need to validate your sense of self or are desperate.
2. Don't marry because you are miserable or don't want to be alone.
3. Don't have kids because you think it would make things better.
4. Don't associate with people you can't trust.
5. Don't manipulate, control, cheat, lie, or be someone you're not.
6. Don't sleep around to get revenge.
7. Don't sell yourself short.
8. Don't give up your values to be with someone.
9. Don't stagnate!
10. Don't regress — avoid going back to old patterns that bring you pain.
11. Forgive yourself if you make mistakes; we're all human.
12. Don't stay stuck in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back; sometimes, that's a good thing.
13. Don't put your life on hold for a "Prince" or "Princess".
14. Don't throw your life away with a partner who brings misery.
15. Learn a new skill; read a book; share and be authentic.
16. Find a new friend who is respectful, honest, and supportive.
17. Start a new career if you're unhappy in your current one.
18. Realize sometimes there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid.
19. To minimize loneliness, attend support groups, volunteer, and practice positive affirmations.
20. Remember: being alone or feeling lonely doesn’t mean you’re not worthy.
21. Nurture yourself; know you are worthy of self-love and self-care.
22. Reparent your inner child; remind them you are intrinsically valuable.
23. To increase happiness, pursue your passions and be the best you can be.
24. Let go of unrealistic expectations.
25. Remove destructive elements in your life: abusive friends, bad habits, toxic liaisons.
26. Be responsible for your choices; you are an adult, not a child.
27. Don’t abandon your responsibilities, but don’t overdose on duty.
28. Don’t live recklessly without caring for family, friends, and yourself.
29. Don’t commit when you are not ready.
30. Don’t strive for perfection. Strive for excellence and simply do your best.

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