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Top 14 Love Addict Signs

By Jim Hall MS, Love Addiction Specialist

  1. Confuses love with obsession, neediness, enmeshment, rescuing another or need to be rescued, and/or excessive physical attraction.
  2. Having little or no boundaries becomes too vulnerable too fast, becomes attached to others without truly knowing them.
  3. Strong fear of being alone, rejected and abandoned.
  4. Fears real intimacy, despite a desperate desire to feel close and connected to someone; will 'run' or disengage from intimacy if it is available.
  5. Despite pain or chaos a relationship may bring, feels powerless to get out or leave; stays in or returnt to relationship with desperate hopes things will eventually get better.
  6. Becomes obsessed and preoccupied with relationship partner; gives up activities, interests, or goals; may grow more isolated and alienated from friends, loved ones, self, and spirituality.
  7. Desperately believes that one person in a romantic relationship will make him/her valuable, alive, worthy and admirable.
  8. When alone or not in a romantic relationship there is an internal void; a sense that "I don't matter"; emotionally empty, worthless, or undeserving.
  9. Substitutes emotional dependency, drama, and negative intensity for real intimacy, authenticity, and healthy connection.
  10. When emotional insecurity increases, tries to meet needs and feel better by using manipulation or controlling tactics with their partner.
  11. Becomes immobilized or acutely preoccupied by romantic fantasies of partner and/or relationship.
  12. Becomes attached to people who are emotionally unavailable, distant, avoidant; some become dangerously attached to narcissistic or sociopathic individuals.
  13. Idealizes; assigns magical qualities to him/her; often perceives their partner as better than, stronger, more powerful.
  14. When a relationship ends (or love object leaves)- experiences withdrawal: feels an extreme sense of betrayal, anger, and pain; avoiding responsibility; blames other for not fulfilling unrealistic expectations and relational fantasies.

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