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Avoidant Attachment Quiz: Is Your Partner Emotionally Unavailable?

By Jim Hall, M.S. | Love Addiction & Attachment Recovery Coach
15+ Years Helping Clients Heal from Anxious Attachment & Love Addiction

Published: January 21, 2026

 

This is a brief self-reflection quiz is designed to help you identify common avoidant attachment patterns in a relationship.

It’s not a diagnosis.
It’s a clarity tool to help you understand whether emotional distance, mixed signals, or fear of closeness may be shaping your relationship dynamic.

Answer Yes or No based on your current or most recent relationship.

  1. My partner pulls away or shuts down when I seek emotional closeness.

  2. My partner was very attentive early on, but became more distant over time.

  3. My partner avoids difficult or emotional conversations.

  4. My partner sends mixed signals (talks about the future but avoids commitment).

  5. My partner minimizes, dismisses, or becomes defensive when I express needs.

  6. My partner values independence so strongly that closeness feels threatening.

  7. My partner withholds affection, reassurance, or emotional presence.

  8. My partner becomes colder or more distant when things start going well.

  9. My partner avoids vulnerability and struggles to express feelings.

  10. I often feel anxious, confused, or emotionally alone in the relationship.

 

About the Author:
Jim Hall, MS, is a love addiction specialist, author, and relationship coach with a master’s degree in counseling psychology. A former therapist turned coach, Jim combines personal experience, clinical insight, and neuroscience-based tools to help people break free from painful relationship cycles, heal attachment wounds, and build secure, lasting love. Learn more about Jim Hall, MS, and his work as a Love Addiction Specialist on his About page.

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