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15 Signs and Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

By Jim Hall MS, Love and Relationship Addiction Specialist

  1. Each partner views and accepts the REALITY of who the other person is.
  2. Each partner values his/her self and doesn't hide who they are (their reality) with their partner.
  3. Each partner supports the other partner's goals and aspirations in life.
  4. Each partner doesn't rely only on the other to make them happy; they know they can be happy with or without a relationship.
  5. Each partner has his/her own individual interests and friends outside the relationship.

  6. Each partner is honest and communicates congruently which engenders trust for each other.
  7. In healthy love, partners do not try to mind read and assume what the other partner is doing or thinking; they practice healthy and open communication.
  8. Each partner accepts that they won't always feel "in love" and "passion" for each other.
  9. Each partner has healthy internal and external boundaries.
  10. Each partner takes responsibility for their actions or behaviors and takes responsibility in communicating healthy wants and needs in the relationship.

  11. Each partner is open to the other's point of view.
  12. When problems arise in the relationship, both partners are open and willing to negotiate and compromise form solutions to the problem.
  13. Each partner talks and behaves in ways that promote the feelings of support, safety, and security within the relationship.
  14. Each partner accepts a partner's right to his/her feelings, wishes, opinions, activities, friends, interests, and beliefs- valuing the other as an individual, not an object.
  15. Verbal and physical threats are never used to manipulate and get needs and 

I've worked with many love addicts who have had countless relationships that were full of nothing but pain and disappointment.

Their relationship history created a belief that healthy love "isn't really out there, it doesn't exist, and is certainly not possible for me". If you feel this too -- I have a message for you: "don't buy into the lie."

The lie that you can't have a happy, fulfilling love relationship is what I always say, "the love addiction talking", period. 

Having a healthy, loving love relationship IS possible my friend.

A solid and focused recovery path can help you realize this truth.


Healthy Love really is possible.


About the Author: 
Jim Hall MS, is a Love Addiction Specialist, Online Recovery Coach, and Author of 3 Books on Love Addiction and Recovering. As a leading expert, Through his writings and online recovery practice, Jim offers much hope for those struggling with love addiction- to discover a healthy and solid path to break free from obsessive love patterns as well support and guidance to overcome the acute discomfort of breakup love withdrawal.

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